We all know ( or at least a lot of us do )  that unpleasant gut feeling when we see a pretty girl and we really want to talk to her but have a hard time building up the nerve to go talk to her, and when we finally do, it feels like we just swallowed our tongue, wouldn’t it be nice if we could eradicate that feeling and just go talk to her, like we’ve  known her for years?

Ok, let’s have a look on why we feel like we do, and how we can become a master at approaching new people. I might as well start by telling you that mastering this technique don’t come overnight, it takes time and you must be willing to face your own fears.

The first thing to do is start paying close attention to how you behave when you are around people you either love of have a close relationship with, for example how to you behave when you’re hanging out with your friends, and just as important how do you feel inside. This behavior and feeling is what you need to imitate, when you’re trying to make a connection with a person you just meet. What happens when you do this is you remove that psychologically barrier there is between you, and you slowly start bonding, this is also referred to as brain syncing, a subject we will talk much more about later on.

Another important thing to remember when you’re trying to make a connection with a new person is that it’s normal to feel nervous, most people do. One of the main reasons you feel nervous is the fear of rejection, that people don’t like your personality and might think less of you. The best way to overcome this is fairly simple, you must always keep in mind that it doesn’t matter what other people think about you, the single most important thing is that you feel good about yourself. The great thing about this mindset is that if you feel good about yourself you will send out a positive energy, and this energy will help you when it comes to bonding.

What we want you to do until next time, is to go out and talk to complete strangers, try out this technique and get comfortable with it.

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